It seems we are in agreement about curiosity then. This is delightful to know.
Exactly. A mere perception is flimsy and scary, because it's uncertain. Having my presence merely tolerated is as bad as being outright unwelcome... worse in some ways, because I'm annoying/bothering them MORE than if I was just told to stop and go away. Without some kind of confirmation, I have no way of really knowing if I'm welcome or just tolerated, and it's an uncomfortable thing. After a while, I tend to snap and just come out with "Am I bothering you? Do you want me to go away?"
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Date: 2005-08-06 03:25 pm (UTC)Exactly. A mere perception is flimsy and scary, because it's uncertain. Having my presence merely tolerated is as bad as being outright unwelcome... worse in some ways, because I'm annoying/bothering them MORE than if I was just told to stop and go away.
Without some kind of confirmation, I have no way of really knowing if I'm welcome or just tolerated, and it's an uncomfortable thing. After a while, I tend to snap and just come out with "Am I bothering you? Do you want me to go away?"